Jackson Jambalaya

Is Tom Head 50 yet?

I don't think he likes females.

Before we all start spending a lot of time on this, what happened with the guy from 5 years ago?

A woman who's out looking for a man and advertising that she needs one, won't find one of worth.
Get involved in activities. Be a happy , joyful person who is enjoying life and interested in people and you'll attract men like a magnet.
Don't look like you know how to pole dance but rather that you can be elegant at a dinner and accomplished in any room of the house!
Travel but not with large groups of women.
Make eye contact and smile but then be a bit embarrassed that you might have seemed too forward.
Like all humans, men most want what doesn't seem to easy to obtain.

The guy from 5 years ago turned out to be a nut case after a while. He was clingy and obsessive, came down unannounced once, and I had to put a stop to it. I tried returning the engagement ring twice and he wouldn't take it back, so it's sitting in a drawer.

Men who are fifty date twelve year olds. If you are around fifty, I suggest looking for someone in the 200 plus range. Because men are clueless.

"A woman who's out looking for a man and advertising that she needs one, won't find one of worth."


Well, to me, this is no different than being on one of the "dating" sites. That, too, is advertising that you would like to meet someone. I met some of the worst guys ever on those.

A woman who's out looking for a man and advertising that she needs one, won't find one of worth.

So where in the world did you get the idea that DWF was "advertising"?

Can't hide from issues, sadly. Every male who registers with Selective Service has them randomly issued to them it seems.

With all due respect to DWF, this struck me as " where are the best meat markets around?"

I'm simply suggesting that travelling to nice places,volunteer activities,going to ball games,getting involved in church activities and being a person who is accessible and engaging and who seems happy in her own skin works. I would add not too look too high maintenance...tasteful, not ostentatious.

I come from a long line of women who never get divorced and who never remain widows for long and always marry well. While not dog ugly,we are seldom the prettiest in the room. At 67, I'm still approached by men who are sad to learn I'm not available.

There's nothing special about us other than we truly like the company of men and women and find people interesting. We like to listen and in being interested , you become more interesting because you are learning and doing.

I'm just telling DFW what my mother and grandmother and aunts told me.

You can certainly meet men and maybe end up with a proposal or marriage other ways.

As grandmother said, " Anyone can get married if they set their sights low enough" and " You want to be accessible,not easily available" and " If you need a man, you won't get one. He has to need YOU".

I do a Kemper post that is more important to taxpayers and ratepayers wallets while you do schtick and get more hits. I allowed you to post, why?

My male suggestion, after years of experience, is just be a lady in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. Just be versatile.

I don't know, Kingfish, why did you? :-)

Unfortunately DWF, you're too close. I have a 60 mile buffer on big game hunting near my home. Otherwise, I'd gladly stuff and mount another cougar.

Seems like the woman should post a picture.

I'm asking where to meet people, not advertise. I'm not posting a picture.

Sugar go to the state capital, or whatever watering hole the politicians gather. Neither should be hard to find.

You will do well if you meet a man who takes a bath. In my experience men stop being well groomed around age 50. Can't explain it but even well dressed men smell musky.

DWF, have you tried Christian Mingle? I met a very sweet ex-nun who had just left the convent. Seems to be as pure as goat milk soap. Loving it with my none.

I'm all about suggestions. Ticos, any day after 4:00 p.m. when legislature is in session. Only single men go to Ticos. Burger King in Madison and Motel 6 in Jackson are both good spots to find eligibles. The Wing Stop, just across the Spillway is a cool place to hang out. Or grab a bar stool early at Bonefish Grill. A good ice-breaker is, "Y'all know anything about Hot Tamales?"

As my mother said, when I suggested that she perhaps go out to dinner with a nice gentleman after she was widowed in her fifties,"Sweetheart, I don't need some old man. All they want is a NURSE or a PURSE."

DWF,I have spent the last 30 minutes reading you posts from five and six years ago,as well as your post today.I enjoyed the wisdom of an older,experienced woman expressing herself in such an enjoyable,easy to relate to way.Grew up in Jackson and loved it.That was 30+ years ago. My thinking brings me to the conclusion that to start asking strangers where to go to find a man in 2013 Jackson doesn't seem consistent with your obvious intelligence as demonstrated by your writing. Good Luck with your search. Be Happy and be Smart.

Table 100 has an Early Bird Special menu, and is wheelchair accessible. Their Bloody Mary's are good too.

Ya'll have lost your minds!

DWF as a man who remarried in his 50's after being single a long time, you have some good advice from the other posts. Be active and approachable. I personally found that Jackson does not have a large pool of talent to pick from. I met my new lady while traveling with a couple of friends. Beware the well intetiioned friends or family who want you to meet the perfect person...usually nuts.

This is not hard. Figure out what you're looking for and then go where that type hangs out.

For example, if you want a middle-aged, red-faced, pot-bellied, borderline or full-on alcoholic with self-aggrandizement issues, I recommend any of the legislators' haunts or Oxford on a football weekend if you'd like all that accompanied by an unhealthy obsession with young males.

Want an outdoorsman? Take a shooting class or two.

Want an intellectual? Hang out at your local bookstore like it's a coffee shop or library. Or take some adult ed courses at Milsaps or somewhere else.

Want someone who's active? Join a tennis league or start going to one of the several Fleet Feet or Stinky Feet group runs each week.

How about a traveler? There are plenty of places that specialize in singles trips. Bon voyage!

Another one to consider is to figure out what makes you happy and go do a lot of it. Sooner or later you'll find someone who likes the same things.

Alternatively, you can sit at home with a bunch of cats and alternate between watching Lifetime and trolling Internet dating sites. Entirely up to you.

Go to Zoosk, show a few pictures with a little skin.

Consider that DWF may not be all that desired or desirable. By the time a man makes 50 plus, he's been around the block a time or 2 also, and been taken as a sucker. I'm 50 plus, single, and have no desire to have a cougar, or ex-cougar to keep. There are many looking for cruises, meals, sparklies, and other amenities for a man to provide, with little or no reciprocation. What does DWF have to offer?

If you like men in overalls, try Miss. State on a football weekend.

That is best suggestion yet! MSU men are awesome !!

what happened with the guy from 5 years ago?

I suspect he found out she is pathetic and sad, much as her original post is.

KF - I am appalled you are posting these nasty personal attacks. She does not deserve this abuse.

"A woman who's out looking for a man and advertising that she needs one, won't find one of worth.
Get involved in activities. Be a happy , joyful person who is enjoying life and interested in people and you'll attract men like a magnet.
Don't look like you know how to pole dance but rather that you can be elegant at a dinner and accomplished in any room of the house!
Travel but not with large groups of women.
Make eye contact and smile but then be a bit embarrassed that you might have seemed too forward.
Like all humans, men most want what doesn't seem to easy to obtain."

What lovely advice! Do you collect old issues of Coronet, or are they on microfilm, now, at the library? Of course, there were all those wonderful Coronet movies, like 'What to Do on a Date?', and 'Going Steady'. Too, there were valuable lifesaving films from Sid Davis, like 'Girls Beware'.

Again, that was wonderful advice! All I can add is that, "Boys don't respect girls who listen to dusty stories."

I went to State on a duck calling scholarship, and majored in cow tipping. One of the things we studied was pedigrees. I wonder if DWF is registered, has papers, or knows anything about her lineage? Her breeding and offspring would be a significant factor in making recommendations.

Yep, I have papers from Ole Miss and my ancestors used to beat your ancestors in checkers.

Help us get a little better snapshot of you.

On a scale of 1-10 with 1 being completely liberal ant 10 being completely conservative, where are you politically?

As far as career progression, are you climbing, have you plateaued, or are you descending? And how far up the org. chart have you gone, again on a scale of 1-10 so that you don't have to be too specific.

Still on the topic of your career, where have you spent more energy: career or family/social pursuits?

Ole Miss heifers were classified as cutters. Their papers were not recognized outside of Oxford, therefore not recognized as a pedigree, and were deemed as bologna.

4

Plateaued - probably can't go up further

2 people upwardly between me and the big boss (8)

Career until about 5 years ago, more family and outside interests

What's your sign?

First, make sure you aren't being too rigid in what someone else has to be. You'll find more potential matches if you're the puzzle piece with the neat, rounded part rather than the crooked, spade-shaped piece. It's fine to keep your standards, but be realistic about how many puzzle pieces in the pile will match you.

Second, you have to accept that what you've tried in the past hasn't worked. That's just the facts. You mentioned 2 divorces. The reasons aren't important for this, but they are proof points that some thing(s) didn't work out. Maybe it was them and maybe it was you, but figure it out and be honest.

You're successful and I'm assuming you've got a world view that you'd describe as more "progressive" than your parents'. Figure out how those traits manifest themselves in your actions because that's how you're perceived. Now make sure those perceptions conform to your geographic reality. (Or vice versa.) Put another way: consider changing your attitude or changing your latitude.

Forget what books, magazines, movies and Oprah say that men want.

You can expand the hunting grounds by going to new places or you can expand the hunting grounds by widening your field of view.

Like Avery said at 10:53, "figure out what you're looking for and then go where that type hangs out." Problem is, it doesn't sound like you know what you're looking for other than a 50-something decent guy without issues who's willing to be monogamous.

I like that, 1:21

So, adventure number 1 will be Bonefish for happy hour next week.

Most of the good ones of either sex are taken. Who would be monogomous but only occasional? Who most older ladies need is a guy twenty years their junior for once a month servicing.