Kingfish note: This is the first post for Shoegirl who will be writing from time to time on JJ.
I am an avid reader, and my reading interests vary from Stephen King and Dean Koontz, to James Patterson and non fiction books. I started to read when I was 2, and I have not put a book down since. I usually stay clear of “Self Help” books and all the insightful books telling you how to improve your looks, diet, and sex life. A friend of mine was going through a terrible break up and I stumbled across the book He’s Just Not That Into You. After reading this book I thought it would be GREAT for her to read it and literally learn from it. Since I was in such a “perfect” relationship I did not need any of the advice listed in the book, but I surely pushed the book on to her. I even signed the inside and wrote a line or two telling her I was there for her through the bad times and one day she would be just as happy as I was. And then my relationship ended and this book took on a new meaning for me.
Like I said, I do not like self help books. But this one was extremely different. This one used humor (literally calling some of the women in the book idiots...and let's face it- alot of them are) to get a point across. We have all been in a bad relationship at times, so we all have advice to shell out right? And usually our advice calls on deaf ears- no one wants to take advice from someone in a “perfect” relationship. What do they know, right? I always thought I knew it all and liked to pretend my advice was the best. I am a woman after all and we are always right. Correct?
It was a lot easier when my friend was the one going through the troubled times. It was a lot easier when it was my friend calling me crying because he did not call or come by when he said he would. It was easier when it was my friend who was waiting by the phone and waiting for maybe even an email from her beloved “significant other”. It was easier to screen my caller id when she called because I knew the conversation would quickly stem to her misery over some guy who has once again broken her heart. But all of a sudden it was me. ME! ME? I was all of a sudden the friend crying over my life and trying to figure out why he hasn’t called me back. He hasn’t called me back because He’s just not that into me!
See, I thought that the drama of a relationship all ended when you “grew up”. All the tears and the pity parties were over once you reached a certain age, right? I was so far from the truth. But I guess it’s easier to fake the truth than to face it. I went from being the Advisor to being the Advisee! The words and cute catch phrases in this book all seemed to be about my life. Boy doesn’t call. Girl makes up excuse. Maybe he is busy. Maybe my phone didn’t work at that time. Maybe he was working. Maybe his mom was sick. Maybe he called me and couldn’t get through. Maybe I misunderstood him when he said he would call. Maybe I should call him? Suddenly my life has become a rerun of Sex in the City, but without all the glamour of New York and all the cute outfits. Instead of sitting at some hip Manhattan night club sipping cosmopolitans with my glamorous girlfriends, I was sitting at home with my dog and reading a self help book. Awesome!
We all want to be happy, and sometimes will jeopardize our beliefs to do so. I have always been the type of female who does what she wants to do and when she wants to do it. If you don’t call me, fine! On with the next. But this guy, this highly complicated, yet deliriously irresistible guy completely turned my world around. I had become the girl sitting by the phone waiting for it to ring. I have call waiting, but still didn’t want to tie up the phone. Suddenly I had turned into Miss Pathetic…overnight it seemed. I was suddenly the girl who was NOT going to call him, and then ended up doing so- only to get no answer and have to start all over again.
The book is a wonderful book to give to a girlfriend (or use it for your own use like I ended up doing). It gives witty and sarcastic advice, mostly ending with “BECAUSE HE IS JUST NOT INTO YOU”. If a guy doesn’t call when he says he will He’s just not that into you. If a guy stands you up for a date or “forgets” to pick you up- he isn’t forgetful. He doesn’t have too much of a workload. He isn’t busy with work- He’s just not that into you. If you end up going too far too soon and it’s been weeks since you have heard from him, he isn’t waiting for you to call him- He’s just not that into you. Women need to realize that there are times when we need to put our foot down and stop being a doormat. He doesn’t call us? MOVE ON. There are far too many more out there and plenty more who will call us when we want them to (and of course, those are the ones we don’t want).
This book was, by far, a huge break in my life. Or maybe I should call it a wake up call. No, I think it was more like a huge hammer that hit me over the head and said “WAKE UP! HE DOESN’T LIKE YOU SO MOVE ON YOU BIG LOSER”. There is nothing wrong with having expectations of that certain someone. Everyone has expectations of someone else. Some times those expectations are met; sometimes they fall way shy of being fulfilled. But for some reason we never give up hope in finding that special person to be in our lives. We never truly give up the hope of finding our “soul mate”.
Once again I will stress that I do not like Self help books, but this one hit home. This hit the nail on the hammer and all of the other clichés that mean this book ROCKED. I literally found myself saying “Oh my gosh, me too” or “I have done that!” Both authors give excellent point of views and both are extremely sarcastic and witty in that artistic fashion that makes you wish you had said it first. Even if you are in a “perfect” relationship the book is still a delight. There are women that have written to both authors and they included some of their stories in the book. Let’s face it women, we have all been there, and this book makes you realize that.
Relationships do not get easier with age. I think quite the opposite actually. As we get older, our expectations grow. We need more. We expect more. But we still manage to just settle for something just to have someone on Valentines Day, Christmas, and birthdays. Why? Why do we do that? Why do we take so much off someone who doesn’t even deserve to be written about? Why do we always chase Mr. Wrong when Mr. Right could be underneath our nose? Why do we insist on trying to change the rebel when we know, deep down inside, that he is never going to be the father of our 2.5 children and own a four wheeler? Is it because of the feeling inside when he does manage to call 3 weeks later? Is it the adrenaline rush we get when we see him for the first time after a month of no contact? Are we all in search of that special high we get when he speaks our name? Is one moment with him enough to make up for the lifetime of nothing special? And of so, does it ever change? Do we ever truly get what we want? And if we do, does it really make us happy? Do we ever stop searching for something else? Are we ever truly happy with just what we have now?
Thursday, June 3, 2010
He's Just Not That Into You
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I am a woman after all and we are always right. Correct?
DAMN Right.
Maybe his mom was sick.
If this was even a remote consideration then it was already too late.
Ha! True...but isn't it wild how many excuses we come up with? No one wants to hear the truth...we would rather play games with our minds...to make ourselves feel better
Uh-oh, what have I turned loose on Jackson?
HA!!!! A fresh new outlook on life! :0....They only get better and better!
Kingfish, for a moment I thought we were seeing the softer side of you.
I was relieved to find out that I was wrong.
Shoegirl, blow (figuratively) the dude off. If the man isn't putting you on a pedestal then don't waste your time.
JJ is the best blog in the area. Bar none. Keep writing.
And when the creeps that lurk here come out and give you the business take everything in stride and don't become discouraged.
This place is what it is because the Kingfish is the BEST at UNFETTERED communications that there is in our state. (wink, wink even though he is a bit of a whore himself! And to think KF used to give it all away.)
Rock On ShoeGirl!!!
Chapter 4 in the book is entitled "Are You Fat and Lazy"--if you answered yes then..."He's Just Not That Into You".
Kingfish the only way to redeem yourself from all this estrogen on JJ today, is to post some sexy cheerleader pics or weather girl videos.
I'll be checking in.
HA! I can handle myself...believe me...And there is no excuse for being fat and lazy....none
Kingfish the only way to redeem yourself from all this estrogen on JJ today, is to post some sexy cheerleader pics or weather girl videos.
Welcome to the Club at urging this.
Hey...men go through this crap too. So it works both ways. I have some pretty pathetic friends who wait on girls to call them or call the girl too much....Sometimes it is nice to take a break from all the politics, murder, and crime in Jackson and focus on life issues (with a humorous, sarcastic flair of course)...I know Karen Irby is waaay more interesting than dating and life stories, but not as funny. I think we all need to learn to laugh more at life....We only get one and none of us get out alive..and it is much too short to take it seriously. For instance, just today, I learned to not give the finger UNTIL you are positively sure your shopping cart is completely out of the way before turning around. If it isn't, you not only look like a white trash woman giving the finger, BUT also a moronic a-hole when you walk into the cart. Humiliated much?? Yes....but to save my dignity (or what was left of it) was to laugh about it...I know the person getting the finger did.
My mother took me to the library when I was in the first grade, my first books were "Little Toot, the TugBoat" and "The Little Engine Who Could", I have not stopped reading since, I was shy and put myself into reading. I have no regrets. Keep on writing, you are doing a good job.
Thanks 7:17- That's a great compliment! I love to write...I would rather write than speak.
kingfish must really be into you.
Well....I AM pretty fabulous
The movie sucked.
I heard the movie sucked bad. The book has been out forever though. It is just funny (or sad) what people go through on their search for "love"
The author, Greg Behrendt, is pretty funny. It's a shame the movie was so bad. It had so many movie stars in it. Of course, Valentine's Day did as well and it still sucked, too.
I heard the same thing about Valentine's day. Wondering if Sex in the City 2 will blow as well. Of course, I RARELY go to the movie theater. I wait for dvd. I didn't see Sex in the city 1 until it was in the 3.00 rack at TJ Maxx. But I digress.
The movie theater is just gross. No telling how many kids wiped their noses on your chair....or other things. And I can never get comfortable. I also H A T E people who talk during the movie...turning around and 'giving them the look' can only be done so many times. I also always have to go to the bathroom after consuming my 80 ounce $15.00 diet coke (that came with the free 900 calorie, buttered soaked popcorn) so I end up missing half the movie anyway. Problems- I know.
Didn't bother reading it all. Or, the comments. So I have two questions:
1. What if you were the one who didn't call?
2. Is eveuone a victim these days?
Ugh. Too much taken b/c it was given and expected. Did you ever think you get what you GIVE!?! From your piece I find a bit too many words not enough experience.
I hear you, Shoegirl. I can't stand to go to the movies unless it's something I really have to see. SATC 2 was ok. I saw it twice. It's turning into the Golden Girls.
I'll reserve comment until tomorrow. Not that it matters. Not that impressed. Its a drastic (meaning WTF) change from the normal wear and tear of the hard nosed, lets deal with facts, get down to business approach I have found so refreshing on this blog attitude that kinda surprises me.
Never try to be everything to everyone.
well first of all, the piece is for entertainment purposes...i don't take life so seriously. I try and find a humorous side to EVERYTHING. But, to answer your questions:
1. What if...What if...what if...I hate what if questions. They are meaningless. What if Grandma had balls? She'd be grandpa.
2. No one is talking about being a victim. I am surely not one. How can one presume a lack of experience by one article? And you stated you didn't finish it!
I write about life experiences...I make fun of myself...Don't take it all so seriously. Lighten up just a wee bit
So why the last paragraph of questions?
Here comes the heat....lets see if she can cook in the kitchen....
To refresh your memory....
Why? Why do we do that? Why do we take so much off someone who doesn’t even deserve to be written about? Why do we always chase Mr. Wrong when Mr. Right could be underneath our nose? Why do we insist on trying to change the rebel when we know, deep down inside, that he is never going to be the father of our 2.5 children and own a four wheeler? Is it because of the feeling inside when he does manage to call 3 weeks later? Is it the adrenaline rush we get when we see him for the first time after a month of no contact? Are we all in search of that special high we get when he speaks our name? Is one moment with him enough to make up for the lifetime of nothing special? And of so, does it ever change? Do we ever truly get what we want? And if we do, does it really make us happy? Do we ever stop searching for something else? Are we ever truly happy with just what we have now?
Sorry if I take your what if bs and toss it in the proverbial trash can. You should take time to examine the question.
And finally, I guess you are just entertainment. Got it.
Kaptain- I appreciate your criticism...really i do. But, you don't HAVE to read it. You can skim the first sentence or two and know whether or not it interests you...if it doesn't, don't read it! Not everyone is the same. People like different things. I write about everyday life things. Kingfish gives us the news...the facts...the hard nosed, sitting on the edge of your chair inside information....I am not about to compete with that! Who could?! I like to make people laugh...I try and find the humorous side of things. I am as straight forward and sarcastic as they come... I write about random, everyday stuff. I might throw in some insightful questions every now and then (to make you think), but usually I am making fun of something -usually myself-....some will like it. Some will not. I, honestly, don't care. Like I said- you don't have to read it!.
The questions are really more rhetorical....I don't really expect an answer. They are just there to make you think a little...about yourself...life.
Lisa- I think they should have stopped at the first one...stop while you are ahead, ya know? I hate when a damn good movie goes into sequels...(Friday the 13th part 10 or something?!)
I did read it with the same attention to detail that this blog inspires in thinking.
I'd like to ask for a poll, how many of us are Taurae?
hehehehe. I'm getting a kick out of this. Sorry, Shoegirl is here to stay. She is a pretty sharp woman who has quite a few things to say and I don't mind having a different voice here. Y'all seem to think I'm going away or something. Just a change of pace and she will write from time to time. Even the Wall Street Journal has a lighter side section (The Personal Journal)so if the WSJ can do it, I can do it. Frankly, there are not enough female bloggers in this town and I'd like there to be some alternative to the JFP. I'm enjoying the give and take and trust me, she can take it but all of y'all be nice. I don't see to remember anyone griping about DWF and her cougar expeditions. It won't surprise me at all if Stiletto or DWF has something to say tomorrow on this thread.
Now that I've spoken, back to the battle royal.
I've been waiting for DWF and Stiletto to show up again....
aaaauuuuggggrrrrr.....
What happened to the Fear and Loathing in New Orleans?
Kaptain- I like to make people think...but on a WAAAAAY different level than Kingfish. No one wants to hear the news from me because that is what Kingfish does...and no one can compete with that! I just want to add something different to the blog...Not all of my stuff is "girly love crap" at all!! That was just my first article. It was fresh on my mind so I went with it. I do like to end things with questions though....some people respond to them outloud...but I really just like to leave the reader going "hmmmm". As much as we love to hear all the hardcore news, I think alot of people want to read about everyday issues (such as dating, marriage, abortion, domestic abuse, etc. etc.) that they can relate to as well. Hey, some people will like me. Some will hate me. Some I will make laugh...some I will piss off. But you always have the choice not to read me...or it...
And, I guess I didn't reserve comment until tomorrow. Shit. If I gotta read you Shoe, at least don't make me complain about the dog shit I stepped in and is sticking on the bottom of my sole.
You don't HAVE to read me kaptain...It is your choice! Remember...America....choices...
And for the rest of my "fans"- you all have choices when it comes to my different way of writing too! You can either get OVER it or die mad. Are we having fun yet?
Geez...I'm just having fun with ya, if this is the entertainment section, then lets "rock"...in my case "roll"...I'm diggin' the subject, just wish I would really see something of pure, lets get 3D on this. Bring us a roundaboutlivefromyourlife visual that entertains. I can't stand my life sucks or comparably sucks or might suck or should suck. It doesn't. We are all alive and living the dream. Or a reasonable facsimile there of. Sorry to end that sentence on a preposition, but (and I can't stand "but) it worked.
Funny, but the more I read here and partcipate, the more I take pride in the correctness of communication. It is a lofty goal. Because this site inspires emotion; it is within all of us to be better than the news agencies, to be clear in our thoughts, communication and beliefs. No one is wrong in believing in something; it is our failure to communicate it properly that allows criticism.
Amen Kaptain!!
No one's life should suck...and if it does, then do something about it. I've lived through hard times...horrible times even...but as an adult, it is up to you to make your life better- to enrich it. Life isn't about how much money you have (or how much you marry into), what bogus car you drive or what school your arrogant little brat attends...Life is about getting out there and LIVING. If something isn't going your way- change it. Get off your ass and quit complaining and live...I hear so many people complain about bullshit all the time and I literally want to slap them. A lady in line was complaining because the kid behind the counter was taking too long. Well guess what lady? You weigh 4 hundred and 82 pounds...you shouldn't be in line at McDonald's ANYWAY! Instead of complaining, she should have been thanking God for not having a heart attack waiting on her Big Mac.....and Diet Coke.
I would love to sit here and chat but I have to get some sleep. Tomorrow is a new day and it allows me plenty of opportunity to make an ass out of myself. Maybe I will come up with a "25 random facts about me" for everyone. I am sure that will blow some skirts up....Kaptain o Kaptain- it's been MY pleasure.
Here...here...I might even pull out my green jeans.
Green IS the new black
Shoegirl,
I think your writing is lovely. Do not be offended by the negative comments. They are not directed to you specifically. It is more or less the content that is being presented on a politically fueled blog that is just making your interesting writing not sit well with some.
Kingfish,
I visit your website for political updates that do not go through the crappy media filter we call news in this area. This type of writing is not really what I'm looking for here. However, it is your blog and you obviously may do with it what you wish. But I will not be checking in as often if this is the direction it is going.
I am female- low 30's, intelligent, blah blah blah, but the Shoegirl type of writing just isn't my "bag" (Whether it matches the shoes or not ;-)
Trust me guys, trust me. You don't know what's coming down the turnpike. ;-) This is like when Limbaugh changes the focus of the show for a day and everyone freaks. It will be ok. ;-)
Kingfish isn't changing his blog style. He has other people on here who do feature writing too(DWF for one) Am I going to write everyday? No. This isn't my site....I am just a featured writer- meaning, I will write from time to time....(I know, I know...bring on the tears)
Thanks for the compliments though. I promise you I will not clog up the site everyday with my useless, random thoughts. However, (I was going to say 'but', BUT I refrained for Kaptain) I am open to topics for discussion...I am always ready to take on a debate.
Yeah, Shoegirl, they're jumping the shark, so to speak. I do love Samantha, though.
King, I'm just not that into this. This blows. You're not Rush Limbaugh. He apparently can't make a mistake regarding content. You have.
"hit the nail on the hammer"? KF, what are you doing? Do you really want your readers asking themselves "I wonder if there is anything remotely relevant of KF's blog today?"
I love to see people who can't deal with change. It's so fun.
Love it Shoegirl!
I need to get out and start "cougaring" again. I have so missed those days. I never found a decent replacement for my young man who moved to Atlanta......
You go girl!
Agreed IG.
The only change here I don't care for is the absence of regular posts featuring well endowed women displaying their finery. That, at one time, was the hallmark of JJ. Those were good times.
Kinfish and Shoegirl, keep it up! There is nothing wrong with a little change of pace! Like Shoegirl said, KF makes us think about the accuracies/inaccuracies, politics, and the messed up things around the area and beyond dealing with a vast array of topics. Shoegirl now brings a different mindset/view on different subjects. I think different points of view are definately shared in the comments section, why not the blog in and of itself? Don't like it, JFP and Clarion Liar need readers desperately!
It appears that Shoegirl does not have Southern Belle manners. Everyone knows that a SB has good command of vulgar terms when in private, but NEVER in public. Shame on you Shoe!
What if Grandma had balls?
look like a white trash woman giving the finger, BUT also a moronic a-hole
I learned to not give the finger UNTIL
men go through this crap too.
"girly love crap"
some I will piss off
I hate when a damn good movie goes into sequels
Get off your ass
complain about bullshit all the time
(tsk tsk, Shoe)
...and Kingfish, it is also unattractive for a grown man to say "hehehehe" (It really is)
Shoegirl, you've got spunk. I have spunk.
Well good morning all! Have I been missed? Let me touch base on something- I never claimed to be a "Southern Belle"...I do have Southern manners. I always say "please" and "thank you". It is always ALWAYS "Ma'am" and "sir". I open the doors for people, help the elderly, volunteer (I am with a 'million' different charities), brake for animals, blah blah blah...I am the epitome of southern hospitality. I am always there for friends and family. I am always there to lend a hand to anyone in need. I have a heart the size of the world, BUT I stand up for myself as well. The whole "don't say that in public" thing is bs. This is 2010. Not the 1800's. Women need to be able to say what they want and do what they want without the white napkins coming up saying "oh my gosh....did she just say that??" I am extremely outspoken. I am extremely sure of myself. I am extremely strong. All these bogus women around here who are so fake and pathetic...it is so boring. Sooooo boring. Being something in private and being another in public is an ACT. Unless you are in hollywood, why put on a show? Don't be afraid to be yourself! Why are women so scared to (God forbid) say a curse word..or DRINK A BEER?! Give me a break, ok? No offense...you might be a lovely person, but it is bs. Just because I am a woman does not mean I have to be fake. You want fake? Go to the pathetic wives club at the Country Club. I am not that woman. I don't base my life on what others think of me. I am who I am. I will never be who you want me to be.
Shoegirl, don't you get sick of tired of people telling you to "act like a lady?" I certainly do. I hope you have more to write in the future.
I have a ton to write! My hamster wheel is always turning....
Being a lady, I think, is being yourself. Sometimes I might give the finger to someone who cuts me off or does something rude....but do I act like that all the time? No. I do cuss, (they are, afterall, JUST words) but I am myself. I don't worry about what other people say- who are they to judge?! My philosphy is to stay true to who you are and what YOU believe. The ones who look down on you or judge you are the ones with the problem- not you. Stand up for yourself and be yourself. If someone can't handle you, then it is their loss.
Well, I was in your corner until that unnecessary comment about fake and pathetic wives at the CCJ. That was just plain rude and insulting.
"The ones who look down on you or judge you are the ones with the problem- not you."
Didn't you just do the same thing? Hypocrit.
Hypocrite, that is. Lest I be judged for spelling.
Now, now kids, don't fight....
Aww...c'mon Kap'n. That's the only thing keeping THIS thread interesting. :)
Spelling doesn't matter.
And when did I ever say CCJ? You said it- not me! I said the country club. Sorry, but Jackson Country Club isn't the only one in the world. Sorry if you were insulted, but alot of those women at CCJ are fake and so incredibly lame. It is really quite comical actually. I don't judge them- I laugh at them.
11:54- if it isn't interesting to you then stop reading it! DUH!
KF, I'm not interested in this blather either, but if you must include it please find someone with some talent for writing. This drivel wouldn't pass muster in a bonehead English course. Thanks!
Amen, she sucks.
Well then don't read it! How many times must I repeat myself? If you don't like it, don't read it! People who do nothing but complain really tick me off. If you don't like something you read, DON'T read it. If you don't like what is on tv, CHANGE THE CHANNEL. The same with the radio. Quit bitching about how bad it is and just don't read it! When you see posts by me (And you WILL see them) Don't read them! I swear I feel like I am dealing with a bunch of bratty 10 year olds on here.
Go away. You are exhausting.
"This isn't working out, Dalton."
--Brad Wesley
I would think KF would want to know what his readers are thinking. From the perspective a 20 something female, I'm going to have to say thumbs down. I'm all for comic relief, but I don't find this post funny or entertaining at all...or at least not in the way it was intended to be. Juvenile and yappy are just a couple of words that come to mind.
DWF - Why don't you write again? I LOVED your posts!
From the perspective a 20 something female, I'm going to have to say thumbs down.
If you don't like the content you are free not to read and free to leave.
uh oh, looks like shoegirl joined the rest of us anons.
Shoegirl is not anon. That's lame. I do have other things to do in life other than sitting on the computer arguing about things. I am actually following a person who I just caught beating his woman passenger. I am currently at a red light waiting on the police to take over. Damn men who beat women. Green light. Gotta run. Will post later
get off my tail!!!!!@!!#$@@$# you didn't see what she did to me! she bit me in the crotch and then asked for twice what we had agreed. damn women
Bwahahahahahahaha 3:13PM
hmmmmm, what about looking for Mr. "Right Now"...lol. Great movie, too. My 21 yr old niece told me to watch it a few months ago....slapped me in the face to say the least. This sums up what kind of relationship that I want is, "I am crazy about him, but more importantly, he is crazy about me". Loved the article and the debate....good laugh for sure...keep up the good work JJ...
to the individual who was upset over the CCJ comment: Obviously you have never been to CCJ or you probably would agree.....
Shoegirl said: "All these bogus women around here who are so fake and pathetic...it is so boring. Sooooo boring. Being something in private and being another in public is an ACT."
You missed the whole point, Shoe.
People who do not use profane or vulgar words in public but might use them in private are not pathetic or fakes. They are simply being considerate and thoughtful of others who might not like to hear such unbridled expressions.
Shoe also said, "I don't base my life on what others think of me. I am who I am. I will never be who you want me to be."
Shoe, being what you want to be shouldn't mean total disregard for others who might not appreciate hearing your idea of the "if it sounds good, say it" routine.
When you are older maybe you will understand. For some reason I have my doubts but will remain hopeful for you.
Shoegirl is Louaidda
She's quite defensive, that's for sure. Kingfish, you need to look for another contributor. This one needs to chill.
Kingfish, you need to look for another contributor. This one needs to chill.
Start your own blog. Show us how it is done.
Just not that into Shoegirls post.
Shoegirl is micromanaging her post more than Donna Ladd does a civil rights story over at the JFP.
I'd say this is another reason "He's Just Not That Into You."
BS Michael. Go kiss Ladd's prodigious butt if that is where you would rather be.
Hey 3:13- maybe she bit your crotch because she THOUGHT there was something there??? Just a thought.....
Not trying to be hypercritical, but how old is Shoegirl? 15? Her writing comes across to me as unseasoned and immature. I am not trying to be brutal and hurt anyone's feelings, just offering constructive criticism.
Shoegirl, one suggestion. Edit. Edit. Edit. This post of yours is just too wordy. You have 14 questions (or more I gave up counting) in the last paragraph. That wears a regular person out. Construction of a paragraph like that tends to turn a reader off. You think, "gee, why am I having to read all these questions?"
I do intend this feedback in a positive way, certainly I'm not tearing you down. Keep practicing.
Oh, one more little point. Relationships can, indeed, grow easier with age, or that's been my experience. I can't be the only one.
Whatever you say. Asking someone if they are 15 years old and indicating that you see them as unseasoned and immature is miles away from being constructive criticism.
How old are you?
Keep practicing.
i think a guest blogger is a great idea and if KF respects shoegirl enough to open his site to her, then so be it. fine with me.
i could be wrong, but i doubt shoegirl was selected as the first guest blogger on this site for her writing style - who gives a shit about writing style anyway? hell, KF misspells every other word.
i come to this site because i want reporting. i want local news that the mainstream media doesn't have the balls to report, and i want to hear it from someone who is not afraid of the consequences. i want the dirty truth and facts, not filtered politically correct bullshit... and that's what i get here.
so i show up and see an unusually long post about the dating woes of the 21st century woman. certainly not what i expected... but fuck it. i'll play ball. i'll even solve the mystery for you poor woman sitting around right now asking yourself "is he that into me?" "does he like me?" "is he gonna call?"... the answers are, respectively, "no", "no", and "maybe" and don't let the "maybe" fool you. if you have asked yourself all 3 questions, there is a 90% chance he just wants to hump you.
Jesus, its a freakin blog. All you naysayers get off your fucking high horse. Hell, even I have enough sense to not READ certain posts - abused animal photos, breaks my heart. If you are a JJ reader you are familiar with the format. take another toke and pass the pipe around.
9:26, I think NinaNina had a point. She didn't say she was a stupid, hopeless 15 y/o girl. What she said had some merit.
Grow a thicker skin, that wasn't anywhere near brutal. Gawd, I guess brutal would just stroke you the phuck out then.
Oh, and if you add these three letters; IMO, after virtually every single post on this blog, you'll be less likely to get your widdle feelings hurt. Now, find your pacifer and run long to bed.
If shoegirl is louida, she's not that hot.
Is this "guest blogger" meant to be a joke? I suppose that I am not smart enough to "get it" if this is meant to be humorous. I will continue to read and respond to the investigative reporting from Mr. Fish and all those who comment theron. For the most part I really enjoy this blog and look forward to the discussion and comments. Again, I just don't see the humor in Shoegirl but for those of you who do, I am happy that she/he is here for you.
The book came out years ago. Old news, and old common sense. Snooze.....
I will be the 96th post and most here have just complained but wake up shoegirl made you keep coming back. Now do you blame Kingfish for posting this it got the most hits in a while. Pettiness does not do a lot for a lot of you.
I've actually found the blogging comments , triggered as one so well pointed out, by Shoegirl's " guest" piece,fascinating.
The " let it all hang out" group vs the " buttoned up" group is pretty typical around here. Both seem to miss that you can be thoughtful and considerate without excessive and dysfunctional conformity and can express your true feelings without being offensive in the process.
Both groups have women who are using their talents productively and those who are shallow and mean spirited and squandering their talents.
But, the most amazing part is how unsupportive and critical women are of one another. We ought to have each other's backs like the men seem better able to do. And, we ought to be able to stand up to those women, who , like Hilly in THE HELP expect us to toe an unreasonable line.
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