Jackson Jambalaya

Marriage may be good for kids but it isn’t good for men

Any man thinking about getting married should reconsider. Divorce rate almost 50% almost 80% of divorces are filed by women

Through the eyes of a man marriage is a bad deal. Just stress and headaches. Get a good trade, house,boat and a truck to pull the boat ,a dog and a motorcycle. Don’t get married or live together

It is good for men if you're a good man. Ask my wife. If not, go away.

The Modern American Woman is not marriage material. You would have to join the Mormons, Amish, or Mennonites.

Yeah I will pass on the marriage idea. I have been there and done that! That's for young folks that are still dumb to the world and full of love chemical that overpowers the brain and body. Being single is the best life for me. But go forth my young fellows. Learning through experiences is part of life. I hope the best for you.

Husbands are far more likely to abuse and murder their wives than the opposite. Run, women, run! Husbands overrate themselves. We just need effective enforcement of child support obligations or, perish the thought, effective and cheap birth control.

Sit. Roll over. Good boy, here’s a treat

Pick your spouse very carefully.

The reproductive survival of the species is far too important to he in the control of women. You spend far too much time “finding yourself” while you waste your best and most viable eggs. Then sometime in your mid to late 30s, after years of abusing alcohol and birth control, you decide its time to settle down and have kids. But it is often too late. Your last eggs are going to need invitro and probably be born autistic.

People ought to think about the world their children will likely live in before having them. When you consider that this country is in the process of splitting up and that the dollar is going to collapse under the weight of the debt your congress has created, it isn’t looking so good. This may be one of those time when if you love your children don’t bring them into this world.

My wife and I recently had our first child in our 40s. We both wish our parents would have encouraged us finding a spouse in our 20s and starting a family then instead of focusing on careers. Being parents is so rewarding and the most noble thing a person can do and we wish we had time to bring many more kids into our life and this world. Society, including myself in my 20s, seems to frown upon that. Once you have a child, you begin to understand that a lot of other things just aren't that important.

As a female with no kids and no plans to have them, I don't see the need for a marriage contract. I have a great job/home/car/life. Half the men I meet have ruined credit scores and poor financial habits. No thanks.

I dont begrudge young people who partake. Good for them! Im older and the swelling musical score of romance just doesn't have the same power at my age.
Companionship is great and I enjoy traveling and spending time with a partner, but I see no need to intertwine money and finances when most marriages fail anyway.

"Elite" isn't related to money or beauty. It's related to being smart, well-adjusted and rational which translates to being able to provide for yourself. It may be which genes you get, but it's hard to get "bad genes" or children with problems when the only available genes are good. And the skin pigmentation genes are only about protection from the sun. Money is a poor measure of success (shall I list the once famous moneyed people you know are behind bars or went broke?) .If you are smart and well- adjusted and happy with a roof over your head and can afford a few creature comforts, you have " enough". Our family always gave "excess" money away anonymously in adulthood and has for centuries. There's a point that conspicuous consumption and fame puts a target on you. It still comes back to us tenfold. PS Mean people are never well-adjusted. That would be an oxymoron.

These comments explain so much.

Most women pick the worst men in society to get involved with. That’s why the prisons are full with men. The men who would make great husbands are too boring

I agree

I totally agree that we need good families to keep America strong but there’s no way recommending marriage to a young man is the right thing to do these days. Most women genuinely mean well but they are NOW oriented and complete nut cases that thrive on chaos, spoil children, and defy their husbands by taking the child’s side when discipline is deserved.

One only has to look at the beyond insane amounts of the “hey look at me, I’m princess for a day” cost of weddings to see how just how much insanity women have inflicted into today’s society. A friend was having marital problems this last past summer because his idiot wife didn’t think it was fair for their son to have to work during his 11th grade to 12 grade summer vacation.

It’s been this way long enough now that the boys raised by idiot women are now nutless and unable to raise their sons to become men, since they themselves were raised to become beta males.

Young men, if you do choose to get married, she better be a rare and special one. Otherwise, get ready for complete chaos.

Wow. Sounds like a lot of y'all are bitter about your own poor choices in romantic partners...

Late 30s couple here, no kids or plan to have any. Much more to life than just children for us, to each their own.

€9:24 AM says, “Half the men I meet have ruined credit scores and poor financial habits.”

Mm-hmm. Divorced and paying child support too.

@1020, Young men need to stop searching for women to marry in bars and start searching from those young women involved in churches.

" This may be one of those time when if you love your children don’t bring them into this world. "

Uh, it's a bit late to "don't bring them into this world" if you already have children.....

@1136, I thought when I had a child it would take time to get attached to the baby. I mean I knew I would want to protect and take good care of the baby, but I was shocked when the baby was born. As soon as I held him for the first it was an indescribable and unexplainable feeling of immediate love. Everyone should experience loving a child.

12:57, finding a good women in church is certainly a much better way than in a bar. However, some of the most so-called Christian moms, the mom’s regularly attending church almost every Sunday morning, are the very mom’s so materialistic and hell bent on putting on a hey look at me my baby is a princess with everything but humility show, they’re the very mom’s spending money they don’t have on weddings, cars, college experiences resulting in worthless degrees, etc., in order to “keep us with the Joneses.”

And the husband either pays up NOW, and goes along with his wife’s insanity, or he pays up LATER, with the unhappy wife (or ex-wife) that like a child, wants what she wants regardless of how unreasonable what she wants is.

There are plenty of Bible verses on humility, so maybe teaching women humility Bible verses could be the answer to combat the out of control female materialism and chaos that husbands must deal with today.

Otherwise, with 40-50% of marriages ending in divorce, 60-67% of second marriages ending in divorce, and God only knows what percentage of marriages only survive due to the husband feeling trapped, the math says marriage is a really bad bet.

When people tell you to have kids are no where to be found when your buying pampers in the checkout line!

These men commenters need the lessons in humility.

1:00. True, but people who aren’t yet parents really need to consider how loving it is to bring a child into the world we are about to have

Reading these comments is kind of heartbreaking for our civilization. Admittedly, I married young 20 years ago and we now have five kids. I'm 42. Marrying my wife was the best decision I ever made. Truly sad that so many of you have had such a negative experience with marriage. Marriage isn't easy, but nothing worth doing is easy.

I appreciate the honesty of these comments because it's a window into the work that must be done to restore marriage to the place of prominent it once was in society. Whether or not you value marriage as an institution, the research is clear, marriage produces incredible outcomes for adults and kids, more economic prosperity, higher reported happiness, and more human flourishing.

7:57 it is heartbreaking and a sad truth. Allegedly 84% of woman 18-29 voted for Zohran Mamdani to become the next NYC Mayor. Let that sink in to realize just how poor a young man’s chances are of getting a woman that’s not totally insane.

Take out the fruit cakes that think a commie antisemite NYC Mayor is the smart move because he’s good looking with a great smile and promising goodies, deduct the women that have been programmed since very young ages watching fairytales like Cinderella that they are “entitled to a materialistic lifestyle,” whether they and their spouse can afford this lifestyle or not, then discard the ones with a high body count because shows like Sex and the City made being a slut cool, then it’s a low-odds bet for young men these days.