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Ah, yes. I see he cites Ware vs. Ware, a case that's proved instructive on a number of fronts.

The Ware vs Ware case just doesn't go away does it?

The points of what to do if you suspect your spouse is having an affair was written by Mr. Chinn with Mrs. Pickering's input. :)

Seriously very good advice I'd say.

Ah, yes. I see he cites Ware vs. Ware, a case that's proved instructive on a number of fronts.

You are right. One take away being that if your wife or significant other is going to be home don't invite Stuart Irby over to get blitzed.

It's What to do if you think your spouse is having an affair, not you.

1:38. I believe from the posts so far that we all get that Mr. Chinn's pointers are addressed to the spouse NOT having the affair.

Damn. I was looking for that other advice. Damn.

His post on 'if your spouse is having an affair' has some really good info. It surprises me how many people break his rule number one. Idiots!

But he left out 'my' personal favorite so I'll complete the list:

#9. Before you tell your spouse that he/she is busted and you're filing- Go have a consultation with every big bulldog that your future ex spouse would want to retain, tell them ALL about everything, the affair, marriage, you name it. Then, you retain your original bulldog guy you were going to use anyway. Chances are all the other big bulldogs will turn down your spouse when he/she approaches them because they've already been privy to info of the case during your consultation, and BAM- see how pissed off your spouse gets that not only did you bust them, but that while they were running around, you were busy polluting their top attorney picks. Ta da.

>>>>note to self: DO NOT let your wife be friends with Stiletto, talk to Stiletto, know who Stiletto is, or even be aware that there is a Stiletto.

oooo, Stiletto...you one smart cookie! Lol...!

Stilleto - 'fess up - you saw Tony Soprano do this to his wife during the last season ;-)

While we are on the subject, has anyone heard anything on Mrs. Pickering's suit or the divorce. Things have gotten pretty quiet it seems. I wonder if Chip and Beth have just decided to pay up and move on?

Sounds like if you need these legal tools you should probably stick to being single. Just my opine.

Stiletto, you're my hero. Seriously.

I have personally seen Stiletto's trick in action. Except the cheating SOB is one who did it. It works, folks.

Stilleto's trick?

ummm.... nawww I'll leave it alone

"Danger, Will Robinson, Danger."

Stilletto, are you a lawyer? You make great points.

Um, nooo. That's just typical information every woman should have in her "just incase" arsenal. I did #9 a few years ago. Worked.

Also, the feeling of being the first one to empty out all the accounts doesn't suck either. AND if you're REALLY pissed, (say hypothetically he was having an affair for over a year) you could always file BK* on every single communal bill and debt acquired during the marriage and stick him with it. THAT's what really gets them mad. Trust me, if you pay your bills like a good little soldier after that you could still have a 770-810 credit score again in as little as two years to buy yourself a nice luxury SUV. Hypothetically.

*laws have changed..not sure if this can be done, so could always send a tramp with STD his way. either one.

LOL stiletto

Some of the laws have changed. But, educating oneself is always a place to start.;)

Well, one had best know the financial details of their marital assets as well.
If the business " owns" the houses and cars and did all the improvements and paid all the " help" and the business wasn't acquired during the marriage,judges around here are ruling they aren't marital assets at all!
With that set up,it seems pre-nups aren't even necessary!
Should be a warning to gold diggers, but unfortunately, first wives can be damaged by that set up as well...widows can be at the mercy of a business partner!
I really think this practice of allowing businesses to own homes and cars not used in daily business activity is badly abused and should be stopped.

and the newest:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/08/27/AR2009082704163.html?g=0

check it out stilleto

Darth Vader offers free advice? Au contraire. He charged appx $17,000 to make it through the first court hearing in my divorce case before I retrieved my file and handed it to LC James who successfully completed the remainder of the two year case, including multiple hearings culminating in two days of testimony for about the same fee.

TO: Anonymous at 5:25, 1/4/12
Good news for you and all the others Mr. Vader has screwed over.
He went just a LITTLE too far this time (with me), and I think you'll be hearing his name in the news, very soon.
Oh.. and if you, or any other of Darth's victims would like to tell me YOUR HORROR STORY with him, I'd like to hear it.
From what I'm hearing so far, we have a LOT of unhappy campers - past & present. Tell me about it. YOU WILL REMAIN ANONYMOUS.
Leg.000101112 at gmail dot com

Darth charged me $8,000 (taken from my retirement account with a 20% tax withholding--and I'm a 65 year old single woman) for a "One Day Mediation", touting his "95% Success Rate". His victim was my disabled son. Oh, and "The mediation failed", he said with a shrug of his shoulders! He also had our former attorney forge a document that hurt my son, thinking we would never figure it out. Eight thousand dollars, down the toilet. Beware of this greedy,poor excuse for an attorney ("in my opinion"--so he won't try to sue me!) He has a large ego..."in my opinion"!!!