Jackson Jambalaya

You are so right. I had problems with my son and was embarassed at first but then realized he needed help. It's not easy, but you have to do it.

You leave out the fact that those kids of yours had to worry about ME beating the heck out of them if they pulled anything.

hehehe. yes I'm kidding. I think.

I hope everyone with a son or daughter with problems can find the strength to get help for them before something serious happens.

Doing the best for your children is what every parent strives to do but enabling your children to be bullies is child abuse. They will grow up hating themselves and the world around them.

I have a first cousin, who is 52. He has been in and out of the criminal justice system since he was 10. He escaped the Department of Corrections in 1983. He was captured in New Mexico operating a clandestine lab out of the trunk of a stolen vehicle. That was 5 years later. He had to complete his time in NM, then come back to MS to face his escape charges as well as complete his time on the charges prior to escaping.

The many years he abused his parents over and over again was a horrible experience for me. He is an only child. I was the only one of the relatives, outside of his parents, who would visit him in prison. Which, by the way, is a humiliating experience for visitors.

He ended up in AL after completing all his sentences in MS. Our family thought this was the beginning of a new life. He met a wonderful lady. He treated her like a queen. They got married. Then his behavior changed. He began treating his wife just the same way he treated his parents. They were divorced soon after that.

He went through several significant others. They were treated the same way.

He was then locked up for the same behavior problems he had since 10 years old.

We all knew what his surface problem was. He is an addict. He had been in and out of rehab after rehab.

He was on probation from AL. His supervision was transferred to MS, so that he could live with his Mother.

Things went ok for around six months. My aunt thought things were ok to the point that she could go visit relatives out of state for a week or two. When she returned, she found cigarette burns galore on furniture and carpeting. While sitting there crying, there was a knock on the door. A man had come to see the house. Seems my cousin had put the house up for sale.

This was the beginning of the FINAL!!!! straw for me.

Not only had he distroyed the house, he stole some checks and forged worth several thousand dollars on my aunt.

When she confronted him, the abuse was worse than I had ever seen.

I convinced her to call the police and have him locked up. The only saving grace was that I spent hours upon hours counseling and encouraging her to follow through with charges on him and make them stick.

He is now locked up once again in AL.

I have no contact with him whatsoever. Neither does his Mother. I must say, giving her support provided her with more sanity than she has ever received. I just wish I had done that alot sooner.

In closing, I hope parents with children get as much psychological support as they can. On top of that, they need a really good support system. It takes alot of courage to defend one from abusive children, no matter what the age is.

Strange Irony, being this big, tough man that can beat a woman to death with a flashlight, but you lack the stones to shoot yourself? Can't wait to see Bell fry, (rather gas, as it were,) but it'll be 20 years before we see it. He could have saved us all a lot of time and energy.

To anonymous concerning your cousin: Way too often I've learned that addictions are often ways to self-medicate deep psychological problems, which sometimes CAN be helped with prescribed medication. It's so sad you and your aunt suffered so, but hopefully the support system you speak of will be in place for the future. If only one person can step in to offer assistance, that one person makes a huge difference.

One reason I wrote the post is many single Moms don't always have that support, even with good fathers who love their kids.

DWF
Thanks for writing. Support systems are hard to find nowdays. I pray for decernment. I listen to my gut feelings. I praise God for the fact that my cousin had a wonderful son. He practically reared himself. He now has a wonderful family with strong spiritual background. He is hard working and stays on track. I am so proud of him. It is amazing to even think about how well he is doing. He is strong enough to stay away from his father, who is always on a "pitty pot".

My cousin was arrested in Arkansas once and used my Daddy's name when booked. UGGG

Ever felt like you never wanted to see anyone again?

wow - thank you for reminding us all what is really important, not just our social status and who our kids socialize with.

As one who has been in therapy and working in the helping profession, earlier on in sessions I finally realized that the longer one stays within a relationship with a psychologically damaged person, the same thing happens to them. There again, it goes back to having a strong support group to assist in bringing things into perspective. Bottom line is to ensure one has a loving and caring support system. To that end one easily realizes those people are not guiding one down the wrong path. I hope this makes even further sense.

BTW The administrator of this website had a great deal helping through my last situation.

Awww - don't tell me he has a soft side? Kingfish? Say it isn't so!

I'm afraid Kingfish does indeed have a soft side.

I do hope someone sees this that needs help, and will DO something. Hard to ignore now that all the domestic violence problems are in the news.